MISUSED LOVE

Being in a relationship is undoubtedly the hardest and biggest struggle you’ll go through in your life. I’m only 19 and I know all the OAPs talk about how hard work life is and graduating and how much of a struggle other serious things become BUT, what is the importance in that? The most important thing in this world is LOVE, it honestly makes the world go around (generic phrase, can’t help the truth though) finding the one you want to go through hell and back with is such a beautiful thing and once it’s found you’ve completed life. It doesn’t matter what job you have, how nice your house is, what your past is, nothing matters after you’ve found the one for you… except the joint happiness shared between the two of you. It’s easy for money to bring temporary happiness but the real struggle in life is finding your other half and both be on the same level, a level where you both respect and love each other indefinitely and that’s rare.

The word love is thrown around too much, what happened to the sentimental value of the word? I’ve had several people telling me they didn’t only love me but were IN LOVE with me, how can you be in love with someone you cheat on? Someone you verbally abuse? Someone you make feel like the most worthless and pathetic thing on earth? Someone you control to an extent they lose who they are? THAT IS NOT LOVE. I have cared so deeply for a couple of my ex’s but does that mean I loved them? NO, did that stop me from telling them I loved them? NO. Even I use the word too much, telling the girl who works at the Costa next to my work how much I LOVE the strawberry Frostino I order every lunch break… even though I just like the taste (melts my mouth tbh) I can’t help using the phrase, to go to the extent that I’ll say I’d die if I didn’t have one but would I really DIE? Sometimes I hear myself talk about my strawberry Frostino and think I’m treating it better than how those who said they loved me have in the past… a drink… I talk nicer to a drink than how my ex spoke to me for a year?

The journey of a successful relationship will never be easy because at the end of the day everyone has a bad side and everyone goes through bad days. You will get sad and hurt in any relationship you get into whether it be with a partner or a friend but you cannot let the love that thrives inside of you waiting to burst out blind you from your feelings, just because you want someone RIGHT NOW doesn’t mean the person you’re currently talking to is the RIGHT ONE for you. There are struggles along the way involving distance, different views, different lifestyles and even basic things like if you like Marmite or not (it’s disgusting let’s be honest) BUT you need to realise all relationships have to go through these hard times to see the good… as they say you need the rain to see a rainbow.