MOVING FORWARD

Moving on might seem impossible if you’re still infatuated with your previous lover but trust me it’s really not that hard. Yeah, I understand you think you can’t live without them and they’re the only person who can bring you so much happiness BUT you broke up for a reason. Something has happened, something serious enough to end your relationship over so take the hint it probably won’t work. Don’t get me wrong some people choose to continue and try make it work but usually it’s a waste of time because the reason for the breakup will always come back around. For example if it’s an incident concerning trust, do you think trust is easy to gain back? Do you honestly think a relationship will work with a lack of trust? NO. Trust is the biggest factor in any relationship… without it the relationship will crumble and become far too intense and controlling to be classed as healthy. Sure, when you take them back after their countless apologies it’ll appear they’ve changed and they’ll manipulate you into believing their countless lies but one day you’ll regret taking them back because they’ll slip up again - they always do.

You might feel selfish and worried about being judged for moving on “too soon” but how can you put a time frame on when you’re allowed to move on? I moved on a lot quicker from my ex than I expected but never did I let the worries of other people’s opinions hold me back from getting to know someone NEW… sure we are taking it slow but I’m happier than I’ve been in such a long time and someone I’ve known for two months makes me genuinely happier than how I felt towards the end of my previous relationship which is rare. It takes me a lot to be affectionate with someone, even a cuddle is a big no no and it took my ex months of complaining for me to show him any sort of affection… BUT first time I was with X I didn’t wanna let him go – honestly a sweetheart. We aren’t officially together yet which is weird for me because it’s the first time I’ve ever ‘dated’ someone, usually jump right in to it and it always ends awfully but this is different, it’s new to me and it’s going well. X is laid back and it used to worry me that it was only because he didn’t like me but over the weekend I got to see a glimpse of his jealous side which showed me he cared but he was still so laid back and calm, honestly so relaxing. His compliments get me gassed because he doesn’t shower me in them (which is what I’m used to) so when he does say I’m a bit of a peng ting I know he means it.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying move on to someone new but why don’t you move on to YOURSELF… self-love… realise your worth before you let the next dickhead make you feel like you don’t deserve what you know you do. The stability of a relationship isn’t one sided, it’s down to both people having enough respect for the other’s emotions. No matter what’s going on outside of the relationship it shouldn’t affect how they treat you… if they treat you badly and blame it on a bad day it’s NOT good enough, if they love and respect you they’ll never make you feel shit just because they do, they’ll never take it out on you because it shows nothing but immaturity and spitefulness.

Don’t settle for less than you deserve, KNOW YOUR WORTH.

I hope you enjoyed this blog post X!